“Abortion is either direct (induced) or indirect. Direct abortion is any destruction of the product of human conception, whether before or after implantation in the womb. Human life must be respected and protected absolutely from the moment of conception”. (https://www.catholicculture.org/).
Different people have different opinions on the subject of abortion. Some women believe it’s their body and since the foetus is growing within them, that gives them the right to abort the foetus. Some view the growing foetus to be an intruder in their body, with a potential to destroy their shape, slow down their career and take away their freedom.
I recently started volunteering at a non-profit organization that guides women through the choices they make when they are faced with the issue of unwanted pregnancy. This organization comprises professional men and women who are constantly being trained on abortion-related issues just to be able to counsel women and their families to understand the possible consequences that might arise from their decisions. This group supports those who are about to make a decision and those who have made a decision and are having a hard time dealing with the trauma.
I decided to write on the scars of abortion today because it has been on my mind just maybe this could help someone out there. A scar is a mark left on the skin or within body tissue where a wound, burn or sore has not healed completely. Abortion comes with a scar that most women have to live with, silently wishing they never indulged in it.
The scar of abortion based on my interactions with women that were willing to tell their story stems from not knowing how the baby would look like, love them, share time with them if they had kept the baby.
A woman I met a long time ago before my volunteering job, shared a very sad story of her experience in the hand of a guy she thought she loved unconditionally. I’m sharing this for us to learn from it. She met a guy with a promising future through her friend.
The guy proposed to her and she accepted. Because of her beauty, and a great intellectual mind, the guy showed her off to his friends. She felt loved. The guy found out she was a virgin and requested to have sex with her which she declined, stating she will wait till their wedding night. The guy took her out on a date at his place, made her drink some alcohol, and had sex with her. He apologized afterward and promised to marry her. She discovered she was pregnant after a month. She informed the guy, he celebrated her and reassured her they are going to get married. He invited her out one day to hang out, from there they drove to say hello to the guy’s friend who’s a medical Doctor, little did she know that her abortion was carefully planned out by the guy and his friends. She was injected, her baby taken out from her womb without her consent and the relationship was ended afterward. Please pause for a minute and think about what this experience did to this woman.
Her scar of abortion wasn’t based on the decision she made to abort her baby because she did not make that decision, but she wonders if it would have been a boy or a girl, counts the child’s birthday each year. She had the experience about 15years before I met her, but the scar remains.
The above story was shared with the consent of the woman. Let us carefully make our decisions understanding the consequences of our decisions. If you need help or further counseling, please feel free to check online for resources. Your story will be kept confidential. We can also refer you to the right group who can help you.
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